Some inspiration for mom. Especially those who are in the trenches of young motherhood.
Hey you! Mom drinking the cold coffee..a coffee cold not by choice but because since 6 am you’ve been putting out fires and I’m not talking about the burning kind. The kind that involved little cute children you love more than life itself but that exhaust you.
It’s OK to be tired. I understand what you are going through.You probably haven’t taken a shower in 3 days and you are debating whether or not to take one when another fight breaks out, or someone drops a giant container of _____________.(Whatever nameless item they got into)then you realize maybe today wasn’t your day.
I know there are many times you wonder if you are doing a good job, if your kids will turn out OK, or what the heck is that stuck to the side of your shirt(somethings are better left unknown). I also know there are times you feel inadequate, especially when you see THAT mom show up every time at school/preschool looking perfect and always manages to have some elaborate Pinterest project done to hand out to the class. Sadly,you can barely get a decent melted crayon heart going. How about that friend brag about the perfectly behaved kid who can do no wrong, and you can’t even get your kids to not kill each other during one car ride.
I just want you to remember that this all will pass. You’ll get your act together, one day. That day may come when those little people are all grown up. Sure you’ll have a cleaner home, maybe, or actually match. In 10 years those little children will be grown up. They won’t be getting into the trouble they are getting into now. Things will be very different. Those children that make messes that are beyond belief , that also give you the most delicious kisses that smell of sweat and juice.Those little ones will be grown up. Chances are a time will come when maybe you will get to sleep in , but in return you won’t get those hugs, those kisses and most important you won’t be the smartest, most amazing person in the world.
So enjoy this time. I know its hard. There are moments you think when will it all end. Sadly, it will before you know it. Just remember they are growing quickly. Think of the day you held your oldest in your arms for the first time. Hasn’t it gone by quickly? Don’t worry about being the perfect woman, worry about being a good mother.
The rest will fall into place. Those that don’t understand, aren’t important, those that know the importance of what you are doing will understand. That(those) little life(lives) that you are raising are what matters. So don’t worry about being judged. Don’t worry about Matching. Don’t even worry about walking around with God knows what on the front of your shirt. Don’t try to compare yourself to others, or try to attain goals that will only hurt your relationship with your little ones. Just hold on to your gut feelings because you know best and move forward. You’re their Mommy ,so enjoy this time and enjoy that cold coffee because although it may taste cold, your cup will be filled with all those memories that you are blessed to be a part of.
PS: That was all written for me to come back to because God knows I need constant reminders!
Comments & Reviews
Mandy P says
Always a good reminder, especially when I was an hour late to work because my LO decided to go from sleeping through the night to waking up every 3 hours again.
Definitely needed this today! Thank you!
Sarah Borseth says
Sometimes all it takes is some words of encouragement, thank you
Kerri Egle says
I am so happy to see this! My goal lately has been to slow down on trying to keep everything always perfect, and just be with my daughter. I think society has an expectation that women should be able to handle it all, but it’s not true. We’re only human beings. We can’t be perfect employees, perfect mothers, perfect homemakers, and perfect looking women all of the time. Sometimes our priorities must change based on different situations.
So true! We just have to relax and realize their is no perfect!
I needed this! I am on my way to nap while my son naps (instead of cleaning the bathroom and washing the dishes) and was feeling a tad guilty. However, I’m 28 weeks pregnant and TIRED! 🙂 We can all use encouragement like this sometimes. Thanks!
Go nap! It’s Sunday!
Amy W. says
Thanks for this. So great!
Anna P says
Our second little one is on the way. It’s sometimes hard not to have guilt over the way we did some things the first time, when I’m here planning different this go around. I just have to remind myself that it’s OK to grow and change as a person and as a parent, and no matter what I’m doing good for my children.
Amanda Y says
Sometimes this is exactly what all of us Moms need to hear. 🙂 In bible study recently, someone said the good Lord knows your true intentions. That made me feel better, because even in our most frustrated times we are always trying to do our best. 🙂
Sarah Borseth says
I think it’s so true, being a worrisome mom or thinking you aren’t doing everything right doesn’t make you a bad one but a good one. I often see so many other women in their early 20s like myself who are drug addicts/partiers with kids who don’t have a care in the world. I couldn’t even begin to fathom doing that I feel guilty even going to dinner without my 8mo
My little one hasn’t even arrived yet and I’m already bombarded by “mommy guilt.” I can’t imagine how that will feel once she arrives. Thank you for posting this!
Christina prust says
I love this especially with two special needs boys and a 3 week old baby girl. Some days are better than others and you need to pick your battles accordingly.
It’s so true. We are ALL good moms. (hugs)
Zaneta M says
Very wonderful and encouraging words! Thank you.
Cassie Wilson says
Great reminder!!!! :o)
Brittany Crews says
Something I need to be reminded of often with a 3 month old with colic and reflux….
Danielle F says
Thanks for the reminders!
Taylor Schell says
this makes me want to cry because I constantly feel I could be doing more more more and one thing I definitely wouldn’t mind doing more of is showering :p its def a good idea to write something like this to yourself bc it’s so true- it will all be different someday and you’ll miss the time when you were the center if your babies universe.
Just stumbled across your blog and the giveaways… I’m SO excited to start following you! Thanks for doing this!
whispers of serenity says
I felt this way just recently my 2 month old was pulled down from a table he was in a vibratory bouncer chair and my toddler cousin pulled him down and he fell on the back of hisbhead. I called 911 but they told me it was just fine and he looked perfect but god did I feel like a failure. I should have known. I should have not let him fall because he fell out of his stroller that I had him in and I promised I would never allow him to fall ever again… but I did. It was my fault. I feel terribl.
Amber Ludwig says
This is so perfect! I don’t think there is a day goes by that I don’t worry I’m not doing good enough. Im coming back to read this daily 🙂 what a great reminder.
We all seem to need it don’t we? Thanks for stopping by!
i love this
Lauren Stevens says
Rosalina Reiss says
This is something that I truly needed to hear. Thank you.
Renee Smith says
I needed this today! Some days I feel like I am such a failure. The exhaustion sets in and it’s hard not to go there. This was a good reminder that it’s not forever and I should enjoy this phase too because it does go by way too quickly.
Sue Hull says
My daughters best friend has 4 kids under 4. She has a 4 yr old girl, 2 1/2 yr old boy and 4 month old twins boy & girl. I was just telling her this the other day. Her husband works all day, and she is doing all this on her own. She is such a great mom which I tell at least twice a wk. I’d love to get this quote put on a plaque for her. I raised one by myself. I can’t even raising 4 kids. I’d be in the nut house. Her faith in God is what gets her through the tough days. Thank you for this post 🙂
It’s not easy 🙁 But we need to remember it’s all going to pass so quickly! Thank you for coming by. Please share this with other moms who might need to hear this 🙂
Bethany Brown says
Just what I needed to read right now 🙂
Mandie B says
Oh this is just what I need to read maybe twice a day and once in the morning. I am always rethinking everything I did right and wrong threw the day come bedtime. I can not give myself a break. I just want my kids to grow up and never question if I loved them. I want them to just know it and nothing else.
That’s why I wrote it because I know how many of us question it all and wish it was all over so we can “relax” but sadly their is a trade off. I know I’m guilty of it and that’s why I wrote it. Enjoy the ride! Thanks for stopping by!
chelsea preston says
Thanks for sharing ! Needed this after a long day
Thanks for stopping by!
Nicole Pyle says
It is so nice to hear this. After a long day it is much needed.
Sometimes we all need a little pep talk 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!
Erin K. says
I gave birth to my third baby 3 weeks ago. I also have two boys: 3 years and 23 months old. Last week was my first week alone. My husband came home to find me a complete mess saying, “I don’t think I can do this.” Since then things have gotten a little better. But reading posts like this always brings things in perspective for me. Thank you!
The Birth of a baby is always overwhelming. Just take it all in stride, it will all get better and you know what it’s ok to be a mess and cry and break down. We all do it and sometimes its what we need to help us keep going 🙂
Lisa N. says
I think I need to have a framed version of this hanging in my kitchen
I may have to.lol. Thanks for stopping by!
Maggie M says
Great reminders! Thank you! We all need to hear this more often.
Adrianne Clark says
Thanks for the great reminder!
🙂 THanks for stopping by!
Rebecca S says
Great advice 🙂
Hopefully I can follow it right? 🙂
Thank you for the reminder. 🙂
this is a great piece and very uplifting to those who have been running non stop for days, yet feel like they haven’t accomplished much!
It seems like many times we go through cycles like that don’t we?
“Don’t try to compare yourself to others or try to attain goals that will only hurt your relationship with your little ones.”
Such an true statement. Well said!
Thank you & THanks for stopping by! 🙂
Thanks for this reminder, great post!
Tina Welch says
Audrey Yarbrough says
Wow! I so needed this! Thanks for the encouragement!
Good reminders. Thanks