Marriage can be so hard. Especially when every day life gets in the way. Find out what the best marriage advice I ever received was.
The Best Marriage Advice I ever Received
When I was younger I had the chance to spend a whole summer with my great great aunt and uncle in Mexico. The one thing that amazed me during that stay was the love they had for each other and how they both selflessly lived for one another. He would always wait until she was ready to eat before he began eating. He would always hold the door for her whenever they got into the car. I
t was an eternal romance. Being the inquisitive person that I am, I asked them how it was they managed to keep this romance alive for so long and his answer was simple, Never stop dating.
I remember falling in love with that notion and putting it aside for when my time came.
However, being married almost 12 years I realize how important that sentiment is for a couple.
Think about it, when you start dating that special person in your life everything is so new,beautiful, & fun. Eventually you fall into comfort with that person and commit and then the kids come, life happens and it seems that special moment disappears.
When you least expect it those things that you once loved about your significant other begin to drive you insane and it isn’t that they’ve become worse it’s that you’re allowing your daily struggles to overcome the beauty that started it all.
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Men,I get it you’re exhausted and the last thing you want to do is take your wife out for dinner. The dressing up ,the spending money etc… I get it,budgets and life get in the way. But it doesn’t have to be something over the top so much as a moment of peace between you and her.
Think about it, this woman is making the ultimate sacrifice in raising your children. Day in and day out she is there holding the fort up while you head to work bearing down on the pressures of tiny lives that she alone gets so much responsibility for. Even if she also works, chances are a lot of the pressures of parenting fall on her.
So take the time to remember and remind her why it is you fell in love in the first place. Make the effort.
Women,Men can be hard to get through and if you’re lucky enough to have the man that gets it, you are blessed. But speaking to most women it’s not always the case.
Men don’t usually go out of their way to do those things we need, so show them that we need it. It can be hard. The struggle is real. But it’s important for us to take the time to tell our husbands how important this time is for our relationships.
Why do so many couples struggle and eventually fizzle out? Many give the reason that they fell out of love.
However, love is forever.
What happens is most begin to hold resentment and in turn indifference towards that person they chose to spend their life with. So it’s incredibly important to make time for yourselves as a couple.
We are so caught up in making our children the center of our lives.
Parenting becomes our religion, our reason for being.
But what will happen when the kids leave home to become adults on their own? What will be left of your marriage?
Marriage Tips for everyday life
Isn’t marriage a living,breathing thing that needs to be nurtured as much as a life?
We can’t forget to have that balance.
So I urge you, take the time to make the time with your loved one.
Ask for help from family if you can, to watch the kids.
Get the baby sitter and take your wife out. Make her feel loved and most important show her how amazing it is to feel like a woman.
In the end when the kids are all grown up and they’ve started their lives ,she’ll be all you have left. Most important the excuses will be gone. Make sure and nurture and rekindle that love you had for each other. Especially before the indifference and resentment become the thorns in your marriage.
Most important remember why you love her and she loves you.
Marriage isn’t a 50/50 it’s a 100% all the way on both parts and if you begin to give it the effort it truly deserves now before the problems start it will make a big difference for your future.
Never Stop Dating, Always keep loving Each other. Its hard and life gets in the way but in the end it will be worth it.
Because your love is worth it.
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Comments & Reviews
It’s what made you a family in the first place. Don’t lose what brought you together!
My hubby and I are still crazy about each other. We have a teenage daughter and a newborn, we have busy lives and sometimes things get the best of us but I 100% agree with this article. This is what keeps us going. To this day, he still opens doors for me, take me or supper randomly. He calls me beautiful like its my first name. We have our ups and downs like everyone and struggle from time to time but he is my best friend and we make sure to take time for us and to make each other feel special no matter how big or small it may seem. Love is real, and it’s forever, make the best of every day and you’ll be happy in love foreve
Dee Lafrenz says
Hubby & I start out each day with coffee and kisses. He helps with the housework. He even learned to love 2nd hand stores & garage sales, because he know how much I love finding our treasures. Now, he goes thru the junk and picks things out. We don’t go to bed mad, sometimes I have to tell him I love him I just want to be mad for a while, he smiles & waits for me to cool my jets.
This is so true! After being together 11 years and having kids, we tend to lose the time for dates! My husband and I have recently starting dating again, and it has helped our relationship so much! Thank you for sharing this article!
Nicole Violette says
This is a great article!
Dorothy Boucher says
what a beautiful article and I think its so true, you should never stop dating. I have been with this one person for the past 11 years almost ..I know nothing will change because he doesn’t want to change but I DO> All I can say is keep dating and love one another because when you stop talking like in my home, its hell……………
Angela Warren says
I love this article ! When my husband and I got married he vowed to have a date night once a month. Even after our son was born we continued this. We love each other more than when we first got married
Dandi D says
My husband and I decided when we got married that we would go on a date every other week.
courtney b says
this is why so many people don’t want to get married girls change and feel like they “HAVE” their man now. I know it because I used to be one of them!!
Jennifer Heintz says
We have had a “date night” every Tuesday since the birth of our daughter (26 years ago). My mother-in-law would babysit, and we would go out. The relationship with my mother-in-law and daughter became so stron that Tuesday night became their night long after we needed babysitting, and we still make sure that we go out to dinner, or shopping or whatever on that night. I think it is important.
Deborah D says
Your great great aunt & uncle had the right idea. love this story!
Mary Czerczyk says
I think it is important that couples working at staying connected. I think every couple should have a regular date night every week.
James Robert says
I think it is something people just take for granted, we will always be there for each other but without the dates and caring, we tend to drift apart from one another.
Michele Ash says
WOW! What a very heartfelt review on Never Stop Dating! Every single word is the absolute truth! We, as women, are expected to keep care of the kids and the house and everything that comes with both of them! An awful lot of men have no idea what it takes to deal with children all day and to do laundry and keep the house clean and make sure dinner is on the table, etc. When you really think about it, We are the ones that should be getting the “big bucks” for the job that we do! My husband and I will be married for 31 years this coming May 19th and it has not been an easy ride. We’ve had so many problems with honesty and talking and just remembering why we were in this marriage. He left me at one point in time and was gone for several months. I always knew in my heart that he would be back, however, I never knew when. He came back and apologized for what he had done and swore up and down there was no cheating and everything. I forgave him, however, I never forgot it and what I went through with children and him gone. (plus no car either) Things were really good for a while again and then I felt neglected and I thought about leaving! I, instead, sat him down and talked to him, letting him know exactly how I was feeling and that I was going to leave if things did not change. I think this has opened his eyes to the fact that I could have just left, however, I talked it over with him before I did. He was the most caring and attentive person in the world and every day tell me he loved me and we would talk about how we met and everything! He even helped me with the housework if I was busy with the kids! This sort of came to a bit of a halt when he got sick this past summer and had to have surgery. We were together all the time when he was recovering and I could not wait until he went back to work because he was driving me nuts! I was so happy when he finally went back to work, until only 2 months into working he became sick again. We had to find out what the problem was and then have it corrected. This took too much time, as far as I’m concerned. Plus, him being in constant pain and complaining 24/7 was not helping much! Then along with the financial strain and the kids not quite liking the changes we all had to make, really put me into a depression! He finally had the surgery he needed and is still home recovering. Again, we are home 24/7 and I can’t wait for him to go back to work! It’s better to be away from each other for that bit when they are working and when they come home, it’s good to talk and relate to things better. I’m hoping he’s going back to work within the next few weeks! I can’t wait! But, through all of this, our terrible Christmas and the kids complaining that there’s nothing in the house to eat and not being able to afford the things that we used to, we are still in this marriage together! 31 Years! I just can’t believe it’s been that long! Just like you said, Never Stop Dating. Our Dating is on hold at present, however, we try to communicate to each other how we feel about things and try to keep even tempered about it! Marriage is hard and it takes work and if you and he are willing to compliment each other and remember why you love each other and take the good with the bad, you can make it through almost anything! Thanks so much for sharing this with all of us! I truly do appreciate it! Sometime soon (too soon) it’s just going to be the 2 of us alone in the house together forever! Thanks again, Michele
Beth R says
This is so very true, but it is so easy to make excuses. I would love to have you post on some simple date ideas. Some that cost varying amounts of money or are free. I know I would love some ideas from you and your readers
Artemis Deravanesian says
This is verrryyy true! Good thing I found the right man!
Sarah L says
Lovely post and great advice. My friend and her husband just celebrated their 70th Anniversary. She always talks about how kind he is.
Becky S says
“Marriage isn’t a 50/50 it’s a 100% all the way” love this! Great article!
Kris Garvey says
My husband and I hopefully will start again – between work and caring for our son, it’s hard to find time for just us!