As a new parent you feel like things can’t get harder then bringing a baby home. Little do you know how interesting life will get when they become toddlers. Here’s a fun post with tips on How to Raise a Toddler Without Losing Your Mind.
How to Raise a Toddler Without Losing Your Mind
Life with a toddler is a rollercoaster. One minute it’s pure bliss; laughing, cuddling and peeing in a potty; the next it’s a complete devolution; tears, tantrums and messes (of all varieties) exploding around you like fireworks.
Whether you have your toddlers in bed or out in pushchairs, managing life with a little one requires patience, fortitude, and scheduling. Sticking to a routine, communicating clearly and employing strategies are a great way to manage these rather unpredictable times when the going gets tough.
Stick to a Routine
Parenting a toddler means embracing a rigid, ritualistic schedule from which you should never deviate. As your child isn’t really able to grasp what day or time it is, a routine is the only way to let them know what’s going on. Devising a schedule and sticking to it will create a safe, comfortable environment during a time of tremendous developmental change.
While it may indeed be difficult as a parent to observe morning daytime and bedtime as separate and specific entities each day, you and your child will be better for it. For parents routine is a way to maintain a sense of sanity and order in a world that can often feel completely out of your control. For kids it provides a schedule that they can follow and come to expect. This in turn places them more at ease and limits unpleasant surprises.
Toddlers are just on the cusp of that magical moment when they make verbal sense. This can be hilarious and charming, but it can also lead to frustrating situations when you still can’t quite understand what your child wants or needs. Toddlers get quite upset if they feel as if they don’t understand them. The result can be a full-blown tantrum (often in public to make life that little bit more difficult!).
Parents are well advised to hone their toddler translation skills to keep the peace at home, and especially in public. This means repeating things, speaking in short phrases, and responding to physical gesticulation and tone of voice as much as actual words. If you can read your toddler’s actions and interpret them, you’ll relieve a lot of strain on them (and yourself!) while they work to find the words to fully express themselves.
For many parents, forcing a toddler to do anything is a bad idea that almost always backfires. Toddlers are just learning to assert themselves, physically and verbally, so to impose strict or unyielding demands on them can often lead to an uprising of one in any number of forms.
Employ a parenting strategy that uses the power of persuasion, the reassurance of repetition and clear communication to best approach the potential pitfalls of temperamental toddling years. With any luck you’ll both make it through these challenging times with your wits about you.
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Comments & Reviews
thanks for the tips!
Marcia Lee says
My husband & I are empty nesters, but we do have grandchildren. We love the toddler stage; they are so inquisitive. I remember putting away anything valuable (more than potential rummage items). That helps a great deal. If you have a particular item or two that you value, put it away for now and it will be good as new when your little ones are past that inquiry stage. More than likely, you’ll wonder why you held onto it for so long.
Rachel N says
Each and every child is so different! I have raised 2 toddlers already but my third is giving me a run for my money:) Thanks for the post.
Sue B says
I am close to embarking on being the mother of a toddler. This is helpful!
Beth R says
I needed this post today! We are definitely struggling but it is easy when they are so cute! Definitely learning there independence. Routine is key
Erin arnold says
Great little post! As an early childhood educator I can agree with all these things. The schedule was probably the most critical one for my son. If his routine was changed or an inconsistency occurred you could tell by his mood/behavior,
Maureen L. says
My little one is only 4 months old, and already the communication issue is a little frustrating for the two of us, especially since the only way she communicates is by crying, which can be really frustrating. I know I need to be more patient and I’ll definitely need to keep working on it for when she’s a toddler. Thanks for the tips!
liz covington says
Great tips. One thing that helps with my preschooler is putting myself in time out if I start feeling angry.
Alicia Morris says
I agree with the keeping them on a schedule it’s hard some times when you work to keep it the same , I no my grandson lived with us since he was a baby and the way she works it’s hard to keep him on a schedule
Lauralee Hensley says
I agree 100 percent about the routine. If you get off of it for even a day, it seems like it takes a full week to get them back on the schedule. That’s why any illness always messes it up, because their sleep patterns always come into play with an illness.
Thanks for the tips!
Marcia Lee says
I found that it helps to be consistent. Keep your rules to a minimum, and follow through when you set the rules, make sure you are ready to gently enforce them. If you have no rules, you are not helping your children.
Carolyn Lundy Neumann says
great review my two were good when they were younger but I would have to say I’m having a rougher time with my 8 yr old daughter with being mouthy then I did when her now adult brother was that age lol
Amanda Leach says
Great post! Definitely storing this away for when my little one is a toddler.
Erin Knack says
My almost two year old is crazy! I love toddlerhood because toddlers are so full of love and energy. But boy can they be draining!
I am about to start potty training my own toddler and YIKES! I’m nervous about it! Thanks for your comments. Will try to stay sane!
This is a great post for parents and caregivers. I don’t have kids but I know it is a hard job.
Great post! I don’t have toddlers of my own yet but have nannied for many and have an adorable 18 month old niece who is definitely learning to assert herself!