New parents have a lot of struggles because of the newness of it all. Here is A New Parent’s Guide To Nourishing Your Loved Ones
A New Parent’s Guide To Nourishing Your Loved Ones
Running a family sounds great in theory, and it’s often wonderful in practice too. However, before you bridge the gap between these two outcomes, it’s important to remember there’s a lot of hard work involved. Moreover, you’re going to make mistakes, and that’s okay. Many people forget that it’s their parent’s first time in life as well, so there’s never a realistic concept of the perfect family.
However, with enough nourishment, care, love, honesty, and mutual support, you can bet that your path forward will be filled with wonderful memories from top to bottom.
So, in this article, we’re going to approach things a little differently. Instead of giving you a prescription about how you must act, we’ll discuss some helpful advice you can use to nourish every member of your family – and yes, that includes you.
After all, sometimes you need to remind yourself what your familial priorities are, to not let small issues get out of hand, and when things feel tough, to remember that you’re investing your time and energy in one of the highest possible callings:
First, Nourish Yourself, And Let Others Nourish You
It’s important to begin a post like this by emphasizing that you shouldn’t place all of the responsibility for your family’s well-being on your own shoulders. Of course, that might sound a little odd – you are responsible for your children’s well-being for example.
However, this is a team effort too. Your partner should be involved. You can ask your relatives to help when you need it. If your children grow old enough, they should also take on responsibilities. If your partner isn’t pulling their weight, tell them.
As you can imagine, it’s essential to let others nourish you as you nourish them. This prevents burnout. But also, don’t be afraid to nourish yourself. For example, you largely hope for your family to eat a healthy diet. But if you need to cook a frozen pizza or two for dinner one day, then you’re not a worse parent who should feel endless guilt for that. Keeping perspective in mind can help you do your best, which is all that is ever expected of you.
Identify Familial Values
Identifying your values as a family may not be as obvious as it sounds. Of course, this can involve your preferences – such as determining exactly when you’re most comfortable with your daughter’s request to have her ears pierced – but family values are most concerned with the bigger questions.
For example – do you want to home-educate or go for conventional schooling? Either option is valid, even though the former is harder work and requires a parent without a carer to manage, and that’s not a luxury every family can afford. What about religion? Some parents hope for their children to be christened or baptized or whichever other alternative is relevant to their culture, while others may wait until their children grow into adults to make that decision for themselves.
As long as your approach is pointed to health, well-being, and mutual love and understanding, it’s hard to fault your choices here. There’s an argument to be made for every grounding decision, but it is important to think about them clearly and then live by that framework as long as it works. Doing so can make parenting easier, because you have parameters to work within, and both you and your partner can parent consistently within that set of rules.
Prioritize Nutritious Meals
A household that focuses on good ingredients and cooking will generally raise healthier children and keep a healthy weight. Now, there’s no shame in cheap solutions as we said above, but the broader trend should be as healthy as possible.
Some of this effort simply means learning what not to bring in your household, as opposed to buying the right things. It’s good not to have energy drinks, an overabundance of snacks and chocolate, or foods packed with harmful preservatives.
Frozen vegetables can be fine because they tend to hold their nutritional profile even better than fresh veggies thanks to them being frozen directly after picking. Try and stick to wholesome carbs, good protein sources, and vegetables as much as you can. Limit sugar (for example, Coke Zero as opposed to Coca-Cola is better,) and ensure that regular teeth-brushing compensates for treats you do allow.
Also, note that some foods can be nutritious not in body but in spirit – for instance, everyone remembers loving ice cream as a child or being introduced to beautiful indulgences that felt like real blessings. It’s always nice to share those moments.
Pets Can Improve Well-Being & Are Great For Child Development
Many people say that a loving pet can “complete” the family unit, and in some ways they’re correct. Of course, a pet is a real family member with their own life, not just a toy or a nice collector’s item. In addition, they can be expensive to keep and have relatively short lifespans, which is worth keeping your mind if figuring out if now is the right time.
That said, pets can improve emotional well-being, help your family unit feel complete, allow your children to feel comfortable around dogs and cats, and will add something beautiful to the loving life of your family. It’s hard to explain outside of those terms, but anyone that has grown up in a family with wonderful dogs and cats has a special place in their heart for the memories they made with them.
If this sounds healthy and appropriate for your situation, then it’s nice to make those plans. Perhaps you’ll enjoy bringing home a toy dog, a cat, or even a fun family-proven pooch like a golden retriever or labrador. Here you can begin making investments in their doggy bed, vet vaccines, and cold-pressed dog food so they can begin their diet in the best possible way at the most suitable age.
Be Patient & Don’t Strive For Perfect
It’s important to realize that your family unit is never going to be perfect. All families have small disagreements, sometimes big arguments, and make mistakes along the way. Anyone who strives for a perfect family without any fault at all, no worried surprises, or any expected difficulty is simply not living in reality.
However, those challenges can be overcome, will texture you as a person, and help you always stay committed to that which is most important in life. It’s a real privilege to have a family to call your own, so don’t strive for perfection, just do the best you can.
This also means asking for help when you need it, not being afraid of struggling, or not dismissing yourself as a terrible parent because you lost your temper after your children tracked muddy footprints into the carpet. Life is a learning experience, and sometimes it’s good to be wise.
Healthy Routines Allow Families To Thrive
So far we’ve spoken in grand terms about the directions families can take and the priorities they might set. But the truth is that family life, from week to week, isn’t always about the grand philosophizing about how you want to run a family, it’s in the daily experience of living a routine.
So, designing your best routine is important. This might involve implementing a bedtime correctly based on the age of your child. You can also set up childcare after they finish school and you head home from work, as well as setting a time for your evening meal that you sit with and take together.
These routines adapt and shift based on your family’s work and school schedule, the age of your children, and your priorities. But it absolutely is essential to agree upon your routine with your partner and review it from time to time to consider how to best alter it – be that managing your children’s afterschool activities in the best possible light.
Take A Healthy Interest In Schooling
It’s always advisable for parents to take an interest in their children’s education. However, if you have the time, you can become even more involved than you might imagine. Heading to parent’s meetings, donating to the fundraised trips, helping them with their homework, or even volunteering for school efforts such as helping them attend the local school trips as a chaperone, or volunteering for school events like sports days can be a great idea.
Now, if you don’t have the time to do this, then that’s absolutely not your fault. Many families have to work around the clock to keep their households going. So this privilege is one that you shouldn’t feel bad about not having. If you do have the chance though, making use of that opportunity can help provide support like never before. Help you properly keep abreast of the developments in your child’s schooling. Most important feel more connected to their development than ever.
With these tidbits of advice, we hope you can more easily nourish your household and growing family units. As you can see, a healthy and happy family is comprised of a series of decisions and obligations. That is certainly hard work but will lead to satisfaction and love that cannot be replaced.