5 Tips for Becoming a More Patient Parent
Sometimes as a parent, we can get overwhelmed very easily, and patience is the last thing on our mind. It might be our child having a meltdown over not wanting to wear the outfit we picked out for them, or not wanting to eat green beans. Whatever the case, we can become less than patient. I hear time and time again, no parent is perfect, but I think we strive to do the best we can all the time!
If you are a parent who feels as though you have little patience and are looking for some parenting tips in the patience department, maybe these tips will help! These tips might seem simple, but when you begin to apply them in your everyday life you might notice a huge change!
Lower your Voice: It can be easy to yell at your child to get them to listen, thinking you will have a quicker response from them. But, if you you stop and think about what you want to say to them, and say it kindly it will have a better response from them. Tell them how you are feeling, you can say you are a little frustrated, and trying to understand their needs. Using positive parenting instead of lashing out at them, helps keep a healthy relationship between you and your child.
Take a Break: If you are feeling like you are about to lose your cool, take a break. Even if that is going to the bathroom or your bedroom for a minute or two. Take a break from the situation and once you feel calmed down, go and talk in a gentle voice to your child. When you take a break, make sure the child is safe and step out of the room. You wouldn’t think this step would make that much of a difference, but at times it is all I need.
Deep Breathing: This goes along with the take a break part, learn to deep breath. This is a viable tip for sure to becoming more patient. If you don’t want to do the actual deep breathing, then count to 20, bake some cookies, or do something to cool yourself down. I find deep breathing to help bring down my high pulse when I start to get frustrated.
Understand your Child: Depending on your child’s age, you should try to understand what your child is upset about. If they talk pretty well, try to talk to them to see what exactly they are frustrated at, don’t assume you know. This will help you to understand where they are coming from. The next time the same issue arises you will understand them a lot better. Making sure your child feels heard and understood is very important. This again helps build a stronger bond between you and builds trust.
Ask Another Mom: Here is one that you might think about. If you have a close friend who you trust, maybe confide in them. See if they have dealt with the same struggles and see what they did to overcome the situation the best they could. A friend may have a great technique that you didn’t even think about, that could work like a charm. I always love confiding in a close friend who I know can share advice that might make things easier.
At the end of the day, patience takes practice. In time you can learn to work with your child in the hard times to help keep you calm. Patience is something that is great to learn while your children are young. They will watch how you are during situations and could follow your techniques. We all make mistakes and can lose our tempers, but if you practice these tips, it might truly help you to be a more patient parent in tough times.